you·me·both

The foundations beneath the experience

Relationship science,
translated with care.

YMB is designed around a simple idea: differences become more useful when two people can recognise them without turning either person into the problem.

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Interpersonal patterns

Interpersonal research often organises behaviour around broad patterns such as agency—how strongly we initiate or influence—and communion—how we connect and respond. YMB does not reduce a person to a fixed point. It examines how preferences can combine differently across relationships and situations.

02

Empathic accuracy

People continually make judgements about what others think, feel and intend. Those judgements can be insightful and still incomplete. YMB makes anticipation visible so surprise can become curiosity rather than proof that someone was wrong.

03

Perceived responsiveness

Relationship research emphasises the importance of feeling understood, validated and cared for. The shared reveal therefore gives both people equal dignity and translates preference differences into needs and useful functions.

04

Positive moments matter

Research on sharing positive events suggests that active, constructive responses can strengthen the experience for the person sharing and for the relationship. YMB is not built only around friction: appreciation, gratitude and “these are the good days” are part of the destination.

The six-dimension synthesis

One framework for seeing how a relationship moves.

Direction, Approach, Commitment, Impact, Process and Action connect four universal kinds of activity: relating, thinking and planning, deciding, and getting things done.

Each dimension is bipolar: neither end is inherently better. Each person’s centre and response breadth are overlaid to help explain where things flow, where translation helps and which capabilities might make a difference.

This six-dimension synthesis is YMB’s product framework. It should not be described as a clinical instrument, a validated interpersonal circumplex or a predictor of relationship success until direct evidence supports those claims.

What we will and will not claim

We use research to

  • shape safer questions and interpretations;
  • make expectations and misreadings discussable;
  • support curiosity, appreciation and small experiments;
  • test whether people feel accurately and fairly represented.

We do not

  • diagnose either person or their relationship;
  • infer hidden motives from a score;
  • declare compatibility or predict success;
  • present AI-generated specificity as scientific fact.

Selected starting points

  1. Laurenceau, Barrett & Pietromonaco — Intimacy as an interpersonal processSelf-disclosure, partner disclosure and perceived responsiveness in everyday interactions.
  2. Reis, Clark & Holmes — Perceived partner responsivenessUnderstanding, validation and caring as an organising relationship process.
  3. Ickes — Empathic accuracyHow people infer the psychological states of others, and why context matters.
  4. Gable & Reis — Capitalising on positive eventsHow sharing good news and active constructive responses can benefit people and relationships.
  5. Jones & Paulhus — Interpersonal circumplex foundationsAgency and communion as broad coordinates for organising interpersonal behaviour.

These sources inform the design stance; they do not constitute validation of YMB’s assessment or six-dimension synthesis. The instrument and reveal will be tested directly with dyads and revised as evidence develops.

Understanding should open a conversation—not close one.

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